If you or a child are in immediate danger, call 111 and ask for the police. 111 calls are free. You can call this number on a mobile phone even if the phone is out of credit.
The constant stress of living with family violence has such an impact that it can lead to bad health and disease.
Children who experience family violence can suffer long-term harm.
Health staff are aware of this and may ask you whether you're affected by family violence.
If you are experiencing or witnessing violence, or want to change your own behaviour, help is available:
Family violence is common in New Zealand. Family violence can take many forms - it can be physical, sexual, psychological, financial, spiritual or emotional. If you feel afraid of your partner, controlled or always put down, this is family violence.
Not sure if this is abuse?
It is a good idea to seek professional help. This will help you deal with what you've experienced:
Don't blame yourself. It is never OK to abuse another person. The responsibility lies with the person who abused you.
Surround yourself with friends and family. They are important for support and helping you adjust to your new life.
You may wish to apply for a protection order. This is particularly the case if you want or need to keep your former partner away from you. It's free.
For more advice, visit the Shine website.
Admitting that there is a problem and changing your behaviour takes courage.
For help to make these steps, contact:
If kids know it's wrong, you should too. Check out the responses from these young men when asked to slap a girl.